|"Sleep of Reason"|
- Charcoal, A Odendaal
In our 20's she was in a car accident. I specifically remember the last time I saw her before the accident. It was completely random that she crossed a road, as I came driving down that road. She didn't see me, but that was a week before the accident which left her paralysed from the arms down. A few years later both her legs were also amputated after complications.
In the more than 20 years she spent in her wheelchair and in and out of hospitals, we became even closer friends. We talked about life and love, and she lived vicariously through all of my adventures (yes, I didn't stay shy and quiet forever ;-). She was always ready with sound advice and, or, sympathy after every break up or heartache I had. I felt her pain as she spoke of the husband and children she would never have, and felt a small amount of guilt because I chose to not have children. It seems so selfish in the presence of someone who wants it and can't have that life.
She wasn't always that wise and compassionate though, over the years she gradually changed, and became deeper and more mature. You rarely meet an exceptional person with an easy past. The pain and tribulations we go through moulds and change us, and in her case, for the better. We get so caught up in our daily struggles and chores, that we forget to stand still and look at our lives as a whole to see the greater plan and be objective.